Separation. A narcissistic ex. Three kids caught in the middle.
If this is your world right now, you already know…
This is the easiest time to lose your emotional resilience—
and the hardest time to be without it.
Why Resilience Feels So Hard (But So Necessary)
When your world feels like it’s collapsing, it shows up everywhere:
- Your nervous system is constantly on high alert.
- Your ex knows exactly how to push your buttons.
- Your kids sense your stress—and reflect it right back at you.
It’s so easy to react, snap, spiral, or collapse into exhaustion.
And yet… this is the time you most need your strength.
Your Calm Is Their Anchor
Your children don’t need a “perfect” parent. They need your calm.
- Your peace becomes their safe harbour.
- Your steadiness helps them feel secure.
- Your choices now will ripple into their sense of safety, love, and stability for years to come.
Even when the chaos feels overwhelming, the one thing you can always come back to is you.
What You Can (and Can’t) Control
Here’s the truth:
🚫 You can’t control your ex.
No matter how unreasonable, manipulative, or unpredictable they may be, their behaviour is not yours to manage. Trying to “fix” or outmanoeuvre them only drains your energy further.
🚫 You can’t control the chaos.
Court dates, shifting routines, financial pressures, emotional storms—these are often outside your control. Fighting them only deepens the sense of overwhelm.
But here’s what you can control:
✅ You can control your inner world.
This means choosing how you respond instead of getting pulled into every battle. It means noticing when your body is in fight-or-flight and gently bringing yourself back to centre.
✅ You can control your boundaries.
You get to decide what you will and will not tolerate, how you communicate, and how much energy you give away. Boundaries are not walls—they’re anchors that keep you steady.
✅ You can control the energy your children receive.
Even in conflict, your kids can experience calm, love, and reassurance when they’re with you. The way you show up becomes the model they carry into their own relationships.
This is where resilience lives—not in controlling the uncontrollable, but in reclaiming your power where it matters most.
This Is Why I Created Empowered Parenting
I know how hard separation can be.
I’ve walked this path, and I’ve helped other parents walk it too.
That’s why I created Empowered Parenting coaching—to give mums and dads the tools to:
- Stay calm even when emotions run high.
- Find peace when the storm is raging.
- Build emotional resilience—not someday, but right now.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If you’re tired of feeling drained and ready to feel strong again, I’d love to walk this journey with you.
👉 Book a call with me today and let’s talk about how I can support you.
Your resilience is possible. Your calm is possible. And your kids will thank you for it.
Because even in separation, you can parent from a place of strength.
